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Originally Posted by Ustwo
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At least we're not arguing about the definition of the word, just questioning its usage.
I have to agree with my hubby here - I would have absolutely no problem with any of the statements folks have made about open marriage/polyamory/swinging/nonmonogamy if they weren't so damned definitive and absolutely certain that their opinion is fact. I know people in nonmonogamous relationships who are flakes and are probably avoiding problems in their marriage. I know people who have polyamorous relationships and are more solid than 90% of the "traditional" marriages I've seen. In the absence of hard data, as Anomaly stated, your anecdotes and opinions are no more valid than mine.
I also fail to see why people have such a hard time accepting non-traditional relationships when the evidence seems to point to the relative non-viability of traditional monogamous marriage. I'm not at all surprised that people would seek out alternatives that left their marriage intact but stretched the boundaries of what people considered to be "marriage." I AM surprised at the judgmental statements I've seen - I thought TFP of all places would be a lot more open to new ideas, but I guess old paradigms die hard.