Is there any way you can call her or get in touch with her without going to her house or catching up with her while she's with her friends?? If so I'd try catching her then.
Otherwise, Have a talk with her parents. If they unjustly think you're a jerk they should hear your side of the story. Let them know that you care about her but that you are aware she's just ended a very unhappy relationship. Let them know that you are not interested in being a rebound boyfriend or using her but that you'd like to maintain your friendship with her with their blessing.
I would not pursue a dating relationship yet with her. I would make it known that you would like to pursue that when she's ready but that you are aware that she very well may not be ready. Do NOT tell her that you are aware of the rape. If she asks directly, don't lie, but also don't bring it up. That sort of information is very personal (I'm not sure how you found out) and would not be pleasant to have known as general knowledge.
I wish you good luck with this.
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