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Old 07-22-2005, 06:03 PM   #1 (permalink)
someotherguy
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Erection... issue

So I've lived a very sheltered life for quite sometime now. I'm nearly 21 years old and just now having my first girlfriend (except a girl for like 2 weeks in middle school that didn't count). She is an absolutely amazing. I can definately tell that she is in love with me and we've spent an enormous amount of time together in the past 5 weeks (like over 200 hours of time together).

Anyways sometime last week we held hands for the first time. Actually I was driving and I reached over and grabbed her hand. We had spoke about it before so it was really cool to do because we both were wanting to do it for quite sometime but didn't have the nerve. Anyways about 45 seconds later I'm still driving down the road... and I'm at like halfway erect. It was kinda folded over in my pants so it wasn't a big deal... but still. It didn't bother me too much because obviously I was happy at the time. But I wasn't thinking about sex at all at the time.

Ok no big deal, except here lately we've been spending all day together (we work together, side by side.) And she will reach over and rub my arm or gently brush against the back of my neck alot. And I shiver and smile everytime, I can't get enough of it. But about 75% of the time I end up... halfway again. But once again I'm not thinking about sex or anything sexual at all. This is when it becomes more difficult because I'm at work and having to get up, or walk into the next room or whatever.

We had our first kiss, (and our 2nd and 3rd) today. The first one was great, could of been better but I've never kissed a girl before, and I was so stunned at the time that I didn't have my problem. On a side note she gently had her tongue in my mouth (about 1/4 inch) and I was *so* not expecting that. It was just overwhelming. Anyways back on topic. The 2nd kiss was about 3 hours later. It was a decent kiss too, but this time there I was a minute later halfway erect. And the last kiss was at the end of the day, It wasn't really long but still our longest. Like 10 seconds, and I used some of my tongue as well. Whoa, I've been spinning in my head for the last 6 hours. I told her goodbye and got in my car and I was almost 100% erect. Once again I wasn't thinking about sex at all during the kiss.

Really I haven't had a sex talk with her yet, but she is a christian (this is why the first kiss with a little bit of her tongue made me go wow) and I think is probably a virgin, obviously I am as well. So currently I have no plans whatsoever to have sex before marriage (which is a long ways off) and I'm completely ok with that. She told me today that one of her guy friends told her that men think about sex once every 6 seconds or 3 seconds you know the saying. And I said that it depends on the guy and it depends on the relationship.

Personally I used to think about sex constantly. And wanted any hot girl that I would see. Now every girl I see I don't even really notice and just compare them to what makes them not as pretty as my girlfriend. When I think about my girlfriend I hardly ever think of sex, (not going to lie and say I haven't thought about having sex with her), I just think about how much I care for her, and how much I want to be next to her, and how much I just want to talk to her. She says she has never felt like this before and obviously I haven't either. I told her I loved her days before I kissed her and she couldn't believe it. She was like I can truly tell that you care about me as a person and not just lust. Every guy I have ever dated (3 other guys, 1 serious 3 year "distant" relationship that just wasn't fulfilling) kissed me for a week or two before the word love was ever used. I didn't even think that telling her I loved her before I kissed her would be such a great thing. But I am truly 100% in love with her as a person, and sex is not an issue at all.

Anyways, any ideas on how to stop or reduce the frequency of my problem. I think that it may be pretty normal for it to happen. Especially with how inexperienced I am with someone of the opposite sex wanting to touch / kiss me. And the fact that she is absolutely amazing, and multiple times a day I will look over at her and just go... "wow, how did I end up with someone so beautiful". Like I said it may be completely normal and I'll get used to it in a few weeks, I will just have to deal with it until then. But I would still like to know.
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