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If you're not emotionally ready for her to be with another man on her own, the answer should be "no" until you are, which, it should be made clear, might never happen. You need to ask yourself if this is something you really want for her, and if you're willing to do what it takes, emotionally, to let her have it. And if it's worth the risk. And what it's likely to do to your relationship if you every do say "yes."
And if you do say yes, there need to be very clear ground rules. Who's allowed to do what with whom? Is it just sex or is she looking for a secondary partner? Are you allowed to have relationships with women outside the marriage? Does she have blanket permission or does she have to clear everything with you first? How much do you want to hear about her hookups? Make sure you think through things thoroughly before anything happens, and be sure you're both prepared to be flexible in dealing with each other's emotional needs.
Good luck!
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