maleficent

Not that I know anything about open marriages first hand... there are other people plenty more qualified to discuss this...

but at the outset, from what you have said... if you aren't emotionally ready to do this... then you aren't ready and you and your wife need to sit down and talk about why you aren't ready... and what.. if anything.. it will take for you to be ready.


If you could clarify how she hurt you by being with other men, that would be helpful... Swinging is a mutual decision... was this when she was with other men? or at other times.

For an open marriage to work, I would imagine pretty clear ground rules need to be set up about what you will and won't allow to have happen. Are there any conditions where you would be ok with her being with another man?

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