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Originally Posted by Mavric98
always point out if she has done something different.
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That's a good start...
I'm a woman, not a girl, and I can only speak for myself... I don't necessarily want to hear shallow comments -- because I probably wouldn't beleive them and would wonder what you did that you were sucking up or what you wanted... What I want is to be paid attention to... and to be "gotten"... I'm a little different and not quite easily figured out... I want someone with the patience to figure me out...
That's not words, that's not flattery, that's paying attention and going with that... Which is sounds like you are doing...
The comments that girls want to hear that they are pretty etc.. make me kinda nuts... i think all people want sincerity.. Not all girls may feel they are pretty- and if you tell them that they are pretty - they might not beleive it - and it could cause problems... Tell them what you honestly see - they have a smile that lights up a room -- if it's true.. that they have beautiful eyes... if it's true.... EVERYONE... (even ugly me) has one positive quality about themselves.... THAT is what they want noticed... It's not about talking it's about listening and paying attention...
and three paragraphs in, I realize this is not making a whole lot of sense... I will be back after more coffee