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Tilted Cat Head
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Location: Manhattan, NY
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Originally Posted by Ustwo
Being selfish in the long run leaves one alone. There are many things I want to do and have, which would be easier without a child, but I didn't want to wait so long to have children that I would be in retirement by the time they were ready for college. So despite misgivings, and longing for a simpler life my son was born last October.
Yes I wish I had done it sooner 
Yes it complicated life a bit, but only a bit. Children are not that hard to deal with, if they were we would have died out as a species eons ago. We are still planning a trip to mexico in November, (without the child) still go out with friends, I still play my computer games, go to work, have my hobbies (going on a week long fishing trip in about a week) and very little has changed.
Children take but they also give back, there is an interdependency which strengthen both the child and parents (unlike pure dependency). |
There are no guarantees in life. For each child that is still involved with their parents there are a percentage that are not interested due to whatever previous drama.
We are born alone and will die alone. Sure, there's people around, but they cannot be inside your head at those moments. Having a few near death experiences in my life one just a few years ago, I realized the power of the alone moment.
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