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At the risk of repeating some of the previous posts, MOST of which I read to completion...
A relationship is not a one sided thing. If she requests a "break", in reality you have no choice but to give it to her. (or to eventually wind up a psycho with a restraining order). By the same token, however, you always have the right to state your position on the matter. Be prepared for what consequences that may bring. I don't know what agreements you have, or do not have, but I am always one to clearly define terms. What, precisely, does a break mean? Is there a pre-determined time? Are you agreeable to the terms? If not, then you are not obligated to be available at the end of them. You do not, however, get to insist that she do something she is unwilling or unable to do. I hope this doesn't seem overly harsh, but warm fuzzies aren't my thing, reality is. There are many possible outcomes and like a chess game you can only move your own peices. She will do as she will. Hopefully the length of time you have been together has earned you the opportunity to point out to her that you will abide by her wishes, but that it hurts and confuses you, and that she, as well, should be prepared for whatever consequences arise as a result.
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