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I definitely agree with what’s stated in the above comment: “If you love someone, let ‘em go, If they come back to you they're yours, If they don't, they never were...."
I’ve definitely been through something similar. I was with someone through our senior year in high school, I moved away for a year to live with my dad, and then applied to a college near him so we could both be together. After being away from one another for a year, it definitely caused our relationship to change. He eventually asked for a break, and I agreed, because that was what he wanted. I was really scared that it was going to be the end of him and I (it eventually was, but I didn‘t want it to be at the time). I think we went through every single break possible to try and make it work… “friends with benefits,” “just friends, but not single,” “two weeks being single and not talking,” etc, etc…. Going on a break is definitely stepping on dangerous ground. She says she would only hate the girl if you were with someone else during this break, but I can tell you right now if either one of you are with anyone else during the break, and try to have a relationship together, it is a good possibility the relationship won’t ever be the same with the same foundation of trust that you both had before. During the “two weeks being single and not talking” break that I went through, I had sort-of a “fling” with someone else, and when my boyfriend and I tried to work things out, he hadn’t changed anything, and could not feel anything except a grudge against the guy I had a fling with…. and me. He literally hated me after that, and there was no way to get our relationship back to where it was or make it even better.
The fact is, breaks are scary. But if this is what she wants, then giving that to her is the only thing you can really do right now. In my experience, I also asked my boyfriend at the time what he though was going to happen after he “grew up” or stopped treating me the way he was. He told me he still wanted to be with me. The words forever even came out of his mouth, and I believed him. A lot can change in a year, and especially five years. In my opinion, it might be best to just see what happens, try and enjoy your college experience, and let her figure out what she wants. You may even be the one to change your opinion about the relationship.
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