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Vindicated0411 · 06-13-2005, 08:38 PM

Ok, straight to the point. I am 19 years old and about to start college in the fall. I met my first "real boyfriend" my sophmore summer of high school. We dated for a little over a year. A great deal happened between us and I fell absolutely head over heels for him. I think that I truely loved him. I gave my virginity to him and gave him my heart. I literally gave him everything that I had to give in a relationship. Our relationships had its ups and downs, partly because I had not been in a real relationship. He was older than I and more experienced in many ways about relationships. He was also away at college which made it difficult and put a strain on myself to maintain a relationship with him. But we both did it for a year and it was great. Towards the last two months of our relationship, things fell apart and he took interest in a roommate's younger sister while at school. I was helpless and could do nothing. He came home less and less till finally I met him halfway between our hometown and his college, where he broke up with me and left me wanting to die in a parking lot. I was angry, bitter, sad, and hurt. After we broke up I fell on one of his friends for a crying shoulder. He was sympathetic and compassionate. He felt sorry for me that my boyfriend had broken up with me and also angry because he knew I was seriously hurt. I tried to get back with my old boyfriend but things simply did not work. Over time his friend and I grew and eventually I started falling for him, as he did for me. We started dating and are still currently dating. We have been together for going on a year now. But what I am posting about is that fact that I still think about my ex-boyfriend. To be honest I think about him at least once a day, if not more. I have tried to forget about him and I also don't think it is fair to my current boyfriend. My boyfriend now knows it was hard for me to get over my ex but what he doesn't know is that to this day I still think about my ex. I threw everything out he gave me, my ex that is. I threw everything away. I want to get over him and move on. I even met him one night to talk to him and tell him how I felt, that night was disasterous. But when I met him, I know we could never date again because we have both changed. I am in love with someone that no longer exists, or I am in love with the past. What I want to know is what I am feeling and thinking, is it normal? Or what can I do to get over him? School starts in a few weeks and all three of us are going to be there together. I don't know how well I will handle seeing my ex. Please give me any advice, opinion, or thoughts on what you have read and what you think.

06-13-2005, 08:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
Vindicated0411 Upright Location: Raleigh, NC	Moving on troubles from a past relationship Ok, straight to the point. I am 19 years old and about to start college in the fall. I met my first "real boyfriend" my sophmore summer of high school. We dated for a little over a year. A great deal happened between us and I fell absolutely head over heels for him. I think that I truely loved him. I gave my virginity to him and gave him my heart. I literally gave him everything that I had to give in a relationship. Our relationships had its ups and downs, partly because I had not been in a real relationship. He was older than I and more experienced in many ways about relationships. He was also away at college which made it difficult and put a strain on myself to maintain a relationship with him. But we both did it for a year and it was great. Towards the last two months of our relationship, things fell apart and he took interest in a roommate's younger sister while at school. I was helpless and could do nothing. He came home less and less till finally I met him halfway between our hometown and his college, where he broke up with me and left me wanting to die in a parking lot. I was angry, bitter, sad, and hurt. After we broke up I fell on one of his friends for a crying shoulder. He was sympathetic and compassionate. He felt sorry for me that my boyfriend had broken up with me and also angry because he knew I was seriously hurt. I tried to get back with my old boyfriend but things simply did not work. Over time his friend and I grew and eventually I started falling for him, as he did for me. We started dating and are still currently dating. We have been together for going on a year now. But what I am posting about is that fact that I still think about my ex-boyfriend. To be honest I think about him at least once a day, if not more. I have tried to forget about him and I also don't think it is fair to my current boyfriend. My boyfriend now knows it was hard for me to get over my ex but what he doesn't know is that to this day I still think about my ex. I threw everything out he gave me, my ex that is. I threw everything away. I want to get over him and move on. I even met him one night to talk to him and tell him how I felt, that night was disasterous. But when I met him, I know we could never date again because we have both changed. I am in love with someone that no longer exists, or I am in love with the past. What I want to know is what I am feeling and thinking, is it normal? Or what can I do to get over him? School starts in a few weeks and all three of us are going to be there together. I don't know how well I will handle seeing my ex. Please give me any advice, opinion, or thoughts on what you have read and what you think.