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Originally Posted by anti fishstick
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Hey fishstick - I didn't mean to make light of what you wrote, I am sorry. Believe me, the fact that I looked at your post and that's what popped into my mind says much more about me and the women I have ended up with than about your situation!
I completely understand what you mean and have gone through a similar experience. It is amazing how easily we fall into the trap of somebody's affection that is always held just outside our grasp. I felt like such a sucker!
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Rejecting him then was one of the most empowering things I've ever done. I ended the weird power games he had over me since highschool. And I probably ended his weird fascination of me as well... adoring me as the "fantasy" girl whenever his other relationships got too boring. So I believe it was a good move for both our sakes. :P
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Seems like it. It took me a while even after I left to realize the guilt games the were being played to keep me around. One day I just realized that I hadn't felt guilty about anything for 2 weeks, and it freaked me out. I looked back to phone calls and tears and how the harder I tried the worse it got. I was too close to see it at the time, obviously. It just seems so obvious now. I think that is why in my earlier post in this thread I mentioned that one night stands aren't my thing. I doesn't have to be a long relationship that I am in, but I have to feel I know the person pretty well because my 1 promise to myself was to not let anyone creep up out of the blue and do that again.
(well, that and I really don't like having strangers at my place - I keep expecting them to steal something!! I don't know why.)
Congrats on reclaiming yourself!
And... What a great signature you have!