Hey Twinkle, you mentioned that you and your fiancé had been friends before becoming romantic, and that his bawdy talk about girls was common from the start. It could be that because he fell in love with you as a friend first, he is more comfortable with you as his best friend and is finding it awkward to treat you intimately. Maybe he is confused because what you need from him has changed (as it should), and when guys get confused we tend to just clam up...
Another thought is that as people settle into a day-to-day routine with each other, guys especially seem to focus on keeping the big things in order and don't give the priority to small things like compliments. If you approach him in a fun way about it, and make it light but serious and get him in the habit of noticing small things about you, he may respond better than if he feels "scolded". For example, "ok, twinkguy - here's the deal, on Fridays I am going to have a surprise waiting for you at 6pm sharp. In order to get this excellent thing, you need to notice 2 different things a day about me Monday through Friday, AND TELL ME. If you miss one day you are stuck with 4 things in 1 day, so you better keep up." (flowers could count for 3 compliments
) The point is now it's a game and you can razz him when he forgets because he won't get his yo-yo, pez dispenser, or Play-dough come Friday.
I know it's goofy, and maybe I'm just a geek - but they say that habits form in 25 days of consistent behavior... Any more of the "fuck without a face" talk though and I say no toys at all! You deserve to be adored by your husband, don't compromise ~