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maleficent · 05-21-2005, 12:16 PM

He's your friend and it's brutal to see someone you care about be in that situation.

He knows he's engaging in self-destructive behavior. He knows what he's doing is bad for him. He has to know that stealing from his friends is only going to have bad things happen. He also knows, that right now you guys do care about him - but for how much longer...

Does he want to get help and just cant? Or does he just not want to stop?

In talking to him, without screaming, or yelling or going on the drugs are bad preaching... find out what's going on in his life, is he escaping something with drugs? bored?

Not sure where in tennessee you are, but doing some googling, on Narcotics anonymous, there are a bunch of listings for Tennessee... maybe doing some research there would be helpful or giving him some info on meetings he could attend.

But bottom line, until he realizes he has a problem and wants help for that problem there's not a lot you can do... you might even want to step back from him and not spend as much time with him (don't write him off completely, because when he realizes he has a problem... he's going to need you guys) but just be less available to him

05-21-2005, 12:16 PM	#2 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	He's your friend and it's brutal to see someone you care about be in that situation. He knows he's engaging in self-destructive behavior. He knows what he's doing is bad for him. He has to know that stealing from his friends is only going to have bad things happen. He also knows, that right now you guys do care about him - but for how much longer... Does he want to get help and just cant? Or does he just not want to stop? In talking to him, without screaming, or yelling or going on the drugs are bad preaching... find out what's going on in his life, is he escaping something with drugs? bored? Not sure where in tennessee you are, but doing some googling, on Narcotics anonymous, there are a bunch of listings for Tennessee... maybe doing some research there would be helpful or giving him some info on meetings he could attend. But bottom line, until he realizes he has a problem and wants help for that problem there's not a lot you can do... you might even want to step back from him and not spend as much time with him (don't write him off completely, because when he realizes he has a problem... he's going to need you guys) but just be less available to him __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.