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uptown · 05-19-2005, 01:56 PM

You know, you sit here and openly admit to being at least 20 pounds overweight and in the same breath complain because your man doesn't compliment you.

Did you ever stop to think that perhaps this guy loves all your other wonderful qualities but that maybe he's not thrilled about your weight ? He probably is afraid to say anything for fear that whatever he comes up with will be taken/perceived either in a negative way or as permission to not lose the weight or to gain even more down the road when kids come along.When you don't know what to say saying nothing at all is often perceived by men as the only route to take. It sounds like he loves you and simply doesn't want to hurt you cause if hurting you/being rude was his objective he'd be sitting there comparing you to other women to your face.

If you'd like more compliments from him, why not do the work needed to lose weight and get into better shape ? I just know that you'll feel totally awesome being your fitest
and it will give you a real shot of confidence... and the compliments from your man will be real, from the heart and not forced.

05-19-2005, 01:56 PM	#38 (permalink)
uptown Insane	You know, you sit here and openly admit to being at least 20 pounds overweight and in the same breath complain because your man doesn't compliment you. Did you ever stop to think that perhaps this guy loves all your other wonderful qualities but that maybe he's not thrilled about your weight ? He probably is afraid to say anything for fear that whatever he comes up with will be taken/perceived either in a negative way or as permission to not lose the weight or to gain even more down the road when kids come along.When you don't know what to say saying nothing at all is often perceived by men as the only route to take. It sounds like he loves you and simply doesn't want to hurt you cause if hurting you/being rude was his objective he'd be sitting there comparing you to other women to your face. If you'd like more compliments from him, why not do the work needed to lose weight and get into better shape ? I just know that you'll feel totally awesome being your fitest and it will give you a real shot of confidence... and the compliments from your man will be real, from the heart and not forced. Last edited by uptown; 05-19-2005 at 02:02 PM..