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As long as no one's being malicious (ala desperate housewives or some such), I see no real harm in it. I definitely gossip with my husband, and sometimes it can be quite silly and fun! I think gossip is a negative activity when it's combined with "cattiness", and that's probably what most people associate gossip with. Talking about how a friend A got a new job, and he/she'll be doing such and so, but of course s/he probably got the job because his/her dad works there... eh, harmless. But saying/passing on assumptions such as friend B got the job because he/she slept with the hiring manager is rather nasty.
I think of most friendly sorts of gossip as just news-passing - sharing information about the community you're in. The negativity comes when people use it as a weapon instead. I think women are associated with that because we are the more social/communicative half of the species usually, and we have learned more efficiently how to use language and communication as weapons in 'social warfare'.
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My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.
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