My dad got cancer in his penis some years ago, and he's doing just fine now. It's not the most dangerous type of cancer after all. However, he and mom decided to keep me and my brother pretty much in the dark about the whole thing, to pretend like nothing was wrong. I felt betrayed by this, since we have always shared both the good and the bad in this family. They reasoned it was no idea getting us upset because it was no big deal... right. The only ones who know dad has had cancer are dad's two best friends, me, mum, my brother and the doctors. Not dad's father and sister, not anyone at his job.
Maybe that was dad's way of having a positive outlook and staying sane. He values privacy highly so I kind of understand his approach. At the same time, I think he should have allowed us to worry and fuss over him a bit. I love my dad and it felt like he didn't want or need my support at a time that must've been so terrible for him. But it worked for him, so hey... *shrugs* I'm still a bit confused by this obviously. On one hand, I would have felt better if dad had been more open about it, on the other hand, it wasn't me who had the cancer so I shouldn't complain. Whether you choose to tell your mother or not is entirely up to you. Don't be afraid to be selfish.
