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JustJess · 05-18-2005, 11:26 AM

Rant/
I must take issue with all of you claiming twinkle has self esteem issues. To be aware that one is 20 lbs overweight, i.e. “chubby”, doesn’t mean she automatically has self esteem problems. It does mean she’s aware of her self, faults and all. It’s not easy to be comfortable with yourself knowing that you’re overweight (or in my case, horrifyingly out of shape), but just because she doesn’t look like a supermodel doesn’t mean she’s not sleeping nights or whatever.

Now, of course I know she could have such issues, but posters are using this possibility to invalidate her instincts and feelings. Even IF she does have self esteem problems, that doesn’t mean her SO isn’t wrong to not give support/compliments. If she does in fact have self esteem issues, it’s even worse. People are supposed to support their SO’s, especially after 2 years!!! So please stop making his inattention and rudeness her fault – it’s not.
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05-18-2005, 11:26 AM	#20 (permalink)
JustJess Unencapsulated Location: Kittyville	Rant/ I must take issue with all of you claiming twinkle has self esteem issues. To be aware that one is 20 lbs overweight, i.e. “chubby”, doesn’t mean she automatically has self esteem problems. It does mean she’s aware of her self, faults and all. It’s not easy to be comfortable with yourself knowing that you’re overweight (or in my case, horrifyingly out of shape), but just because she doesn’t look like a supermodel doesn’t mean she’s not sleeping nights or whatever. Now, of course I know she could have such issues, but posters are using this possibility to invalidate her instincts and feelings. Even IF she does have self esteem problems, that doesn’t mean her SO isn’t wrong to not give support/compliments. If she does in fact have self esteem issues, it’s even worse. People are supposed to support their SO’s, especially after 2 years!!! So please stop making his inattention and rudeness her fault – it’s not. /end rant __________________ My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.