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Originally Posted by twinkle
Perhaps any one of these occurrences wouldn't mean much, but many of them, together, over time, that's gonna get on a girl's fucking nerves. There's more, but I just don't have the time to list every specific incident.
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I agree with you, it's never the "big" things that matter, but actually the small things... and any accumulation of small things, whether positive, negative, or neutral, will overcome the "big" stuff (yes, even being engaged).
You said you don't have time to list every specific incident... do you mentally keep track of these things? I find that I keep track of negative things much more when I am feeling depressed, so that in a way they become a self-fulfilling prophecy (even if the depression started because of a minor negative thing). It is a nasty process... I hear you, that it's not so much a self-esteem problem as it is one of communication and compatibility. Question those things before committing to either marriage or splitting up, because if you aren't happy now, it's almost for sure that you won't be happy 10 or 20 years from now.