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Originally Posted by abaya
Although... what if you are citing an example in the past about yourself, not the other person? As in, "The way I feel now is similar to such and such in the past, do you see the pattern of what triggers me?" something like that. ...it's just looking for patterns that may be helpful to understanding the current situation?...
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Totally great point! That is how I explain my triggers too. I have found this to be a 'constructive' way to approach discord. You can discuss the issue
without 'attacking' or attributing blame on your partner - which usually results in defence mechanisms blocking any path to resolution.