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Originally Posted by lurkette
You have a point that nobody has asked the woman, but to assume that just because she is silent about it means that she is consenting to being hit is really beyond the pale. She should absolutely be responsible for her own actions, but to turn a blind eye to the situation really isn't being a good friend. All the guy was asking was what, if anything, he should do about the situation. One option would be to shrug and do nothing. Another would be to bring down the hammer on the guy for hitting a woman. I think a reasonable response would be somewhere in the middle: to make sure the guy understands that *abuse* in a relationship is not okay. (Hope that choice of words doesn't set you off  ) From either party. Hang out with a battered woman or two and see if you don't change your opinions about the situation. You're really struggling hard to be offended by what are some pretty reasonable assumptions. |
You do have a good point that just because she has not complained does not indicate that she is consenting. You also have finally come up with a reasonable response for
paulskinback, to make sure his friend is not going to be abusive. As I stated earlier I think he should also talk to the girlfriend and make sure that she knows she does have options.
What raised my ire was the flood of suggestions for inappropriate responses ranging from beating the guy up, recommending counseling, declaring the relationship irreparable, and otherwise suggesting that others opinions trumped the peaceful resolution those actually involved had come to.