Sage

HAVE HER BE REALLY TURNED ON!! This is a MUST for me, and the only time I really want anal is if I'm totally turned on. It is nice to be freshly washed, and don't do this on Taco night. Use LOTS of lube, and go slow, doing some rimming with your tounge and finger first. Also remember that it sometimes can burn a little bit when you first put something in- this is normal and it is just the sphincter getting used to having something in there.

The following is an excerpt from The Guide to Getting It On!! By Paul Johannes, from the chapter "Up Your Bum-Anal Sex"

"Make sure your fingernails are trimmed and your hands are washed. Wearing a latex glove and/or condom is also recommended. Also, some people prefer to give themselves a quick enema with a bulb syringe or a prepared store-bought solution before having anal sex.

Psychologist Morin suggests the following technique for teaching your rectum to relax: each night for a week or so the male partner lubes up a clean finger and gently inserts it in the female's rear, pusing very softly and slowly.

Rectal expert Erik Mainard --known as the Avatar of Ass-- encourages a gentle massage of the anus and suggests angling the finger slightly upward toward the tailbone, since that's how the rectum curves. He says to push in quite slowly and only as the resistance eases. This kind of digital exploration should feel very good for the reciever; otherwise the person who is inserting the finger is either rushing it or being a brute.

One way to help relax the anal area is for the reciever to push down as tho she were trying to move her bowels. In addition to relaxing the sphincters, this adds a bit of suspense to the exercise. However, anal purists say that with the help of a patient, caring partner, one needn't trick the sphincters into relaxing.
The reciever should feel comfortable with finger penetration before attempting any further unnatrual acts. It is also suggested that the receiver try inserting her own finger, for instance, when she is in the shower, so she can get a better sense of how her second sphincter works. It is not until the second sphincter learns to relax that anal sex will feel comfortable, and if it doesn't feel comfortable, you shouldn't be doing it. If there is any discomfort other than a feeling of fullness which shouldn't be painful, spend an extra week doing the finger exercises or give up the concept of anal intercourse entirely."

Have her read up on anal sex, what's good and bad, and have her get to know her own body. The more you know, the better it feels. AND DON'T GET THE ANAL NUMBING CREMES!!! I mean, jeez, that's one part of your body where you really want to know if it's hurting!!!

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