Originally Posted by james t kirk

Everybody, get off the guy's back. He's just a normal horny 20 year old male.

Second, you two are WAAAAYYYYYYY too young to be even thinking about getting married. You are like 20 years old for crying out loud.

Let's look at this objectively for a moment. When all the other advice seems to be all over the map, you have to look at things from an objective point of view.

He wants it, she doesn't.

Let's be realistic, I doubt he will change. He's a sexually driven male (so am I, so are a lot of men, but a lot of men are not.) He's hard wired this way. For him to try and change this would be about as possible as going to the moon. So all you people advising him to lay off, or back off, climb off your high horses.

I have been in this type of relationship before, and in my experience what happens is that the two people polarize. He will just want it more and more, and she will want it even less and less. It's already happening.

From what I read, LPM has some issues she needs to resolve. She doesn't like intercourse (it hurts), she doesn't like oral (it hurts), hand jobs (never really got addressed). She doesn't like being near him even. Well, there's not much left is there?

I would recommend one of two things.

1. You break up.

Sooner or later you are going to break up over this, I can assure you. I know it sounds cold, but the truth of the matter is that you are sexually incompatible and this is a HUGE issue. Eventually it will rip you apart.

He can find someone more on his level, she can find a male on her level, and everyone is happy, hopefully still friends.
or....

2. You let him take on a sex partner that is purely sexual while you work on what about sex bothers you. You guys stay together for everything else, but the sex thing gets handled elsewhere.

Not the ideal, but it works for lots of people, you would be surprised.