Originally Posted by abaya

Bunnybear, there seems to be a lot of issues between you and your bf; it seems that you each have a particular sexual history that really needs to get aired out. Over the past two years have you each talked openly about your pasts? And I mean details, feelings, insecurities, everything. Honesty and communication are REALLY important for having that kind of emotional intimacy, which is even more important than your physical intimacy. And what about offering to get him off in the shower? That way he has no excuse, as it just washes down the drain. I find his behavior actually very abnormal. If you tell him that his behavior makes you feel unloved and insecure, what does he say? He should be affirming you, not making you feel awkward.

And Uptown, I'm sorry, but you are not helping with your comment. I don't know how else to ask this, but please, please, please don't bring your own anger and bitterness into an already difficult situation. This whole forum is about becoming more positive and confident. I'm curious, do you post in places where guys can respond to your comments (not Ladies Lounge)? I'm absolutely positive that there are MANY men who stay with who they chose because they actually love that person, not because they can't "do better," and I know that they'd be glad to talk about why on TFP. God, I just can't imagine what kind of shitty relationships you've been through or are suffering through right now... I wish you would tell us about them instead of just being negative. I'd find it so much easier to talk with you then.