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My wife and I adopted from Vietnam. We now know 3 different couples that adopted from the States, that the birth parent(s) 'changed thier mind', and are now in custody battles. One couple is in court this week.
That is purely sad/wrong/insane.
We met the birth mother of our child in Vietnam, and it will be up to our daughter whether she wants to meet/know her birth mother. But there can be no legal challenge by that birth mother to change the adoption.
That was our overriding issue to go out of country.
Also at issue was the cost - our program was cheaper than many we looked at in the States. Another issue was health - not much issue with the health of babies from Vietnam. Great country, great care.
It's a complicated question, with many more factors than I ever would have believed going into it.
Having said all that, racism plays a part for people - no question. We present often at adoption forums to answer questions about adoption, and you wouldn't believe some of the questions/statements that get made. It's clear that some people only want white babies.
BTW: most adoption programs DO run a complete barrage of health tests first, before greenlighting the adoptions. Some countries even stop adoptions in progress if health issues are found - it's not even up to the prospective parents.
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