Hi all,
I'm ktspktsp's SO and just wanted to say thanks for all the enthusiasm... ShaniFaye, I loved the detail in your post and it got me even more excited for the weekend.
I'm really looking forward to trying our new toy (which just arrived tonight from G Boutique, in Chicago).
I never would have imagined trying this a year ago (we've been together for 10 months), as I used to be quite a prude and a virgin to boot. My ex before this told me he wouldn't mind a strap-on, but I didn't even know what they were!... my, how things change when you're in a stable relationship with trust at its core. Lots of creative fun in bed, for one thing.
I brought up the idea with ktspktsp last summer (probably when we were joking about him wanting to try anal on me, to which I briskly replied, "Not unless I get to put a dildo up your ass, too!") and while he hadn't thought of it before, he didn't feel weird about it or anything... which was a turn-on. (All "exit only" guys take heed: it's sweet for a woman when her man is up for this, since it means he's adventurous, doesn't have a double standard, and trusts her.)
In any case, I think as long as the communication is solid and the lube is flowing, we should be fine. I will report to all from the female side of things once we have our fun!
By the way, is using a strap-on considered "kinky?" I've heard that word in connection to this kind of thing and feel a bit odd about it... not that kinky is bad (esp. considering my prudish background), but if you knew me, you'd think I was vanilla as hell.
Just wondering what makes some things "kinky" and some things not.
Cheers!