Sage

Martel and I suscribe to a porn in the mail service, and have evjoyed it immensely so far. i think a lot of the attitude towards porn in relationships has to do with the relationship itself, and not the porn. in my last serious relationship (before Martel came along riding on his white horse) porn WAS an issue because i was being compared to all the "perfect" women in porn and in FHM/Maxim/Stuff. it was the source of huge battles where he felt i was trying to "change" him and i felt he wasn't wanting to be with "me" at all but just with some mental image in his head while he was screwing. i think the first sign there was intimacy issues might have been his total and complete love of blow job porn to the exclusion of all else.

but i digress..

porn is good, i think it's definitely a turn on when you're in the right mood. i agree with what everyone else here has said, that it needs to be talked about and dealt with openly.

and your classmate's boyfriend deserves a swift kick in the nuts!

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