Sure sure, I know Nancy is the go to girl for TPF
Honestly, your girlfriend sounds a lot like myself. I'm sure I frustrate the hell out of my boyfriend at times. But the fact of the matter is, somethings take time. Not every girl grew up giving handjobs to the boys on the bus.
Its good that you two can talk about things. Keep that up. And you're right, she might just need a little push. But she needs it from herself. She'll come around.
And now, just to scare you a bit
A girlfriend of mine got married nearly 3 years ago. At the time (and as far as I know it continues) she wasn't excited about Little Husband (to use your term). No touchy touchy. No oral action. Nada. As far as I know she did everything to avoide touching him at all. But I'm sure your girlfriend is nothing like that
