raeanna74

I doubt it has anything to do with northern or southern thinking. I've run into rude people everywhere I go.

I have a feeling though if the woman had automatically said "Excuse me." Right away when she bumped into your wife then your feelings toward her might have been less hostile. Am I right?? Then if when she spilled her coffee she'd said something like 'oops" intead of just looking at you, I'm guessing you might not have reacted so. Her, just looking at you, could have been implied as her thinking it was your fault at which you responded "defensively". She did not handle herself with decorum in a blunder which she made and you responded with offense.

I'm not giving you an excuse but suggesting that you might not have felt as offended had she acted properly herself. People make mistakes but you say excuse me or apologize and laugh it off instead of staring and other's won't think of you as negatively. I'm very distractable and constantly running into people and things. I automatically say excuse me even if I'm just forced to walk between two people who are talking. I've never been met with comments such as you gave because I head them off with courtesy on my part.

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