flamingdog

I hear that. I really do, having been in that position myself for most of my life. All I can say is, I really hope you meet the woman who sees you as that awesome boyfriend rather than the guy who'll make someone else happy one day. I did, and I've never felt more appreciated in my life. It makes it all worthwhile. At the end of the day though, Matt, you know you're a catch, and the best thing is, you don't seem to hold any bitterness towards women as a result of your female friends' blindness to your attributes. That's a pure heart.

People who are umming and ahhing over whether they would date someone with a disability... you can reframe the question in terms of 'would you date someone if they were flat-chested?'

Not that flat-chestedness is a disability, but it says precisely the same amount about the reason you fall in love with someone. It's about who they are, the kindness, the sweetness, the generosity of spirit that they exhibit by their actions. What if you dismissed someone potentially very special because they didn't swell out in the right places? You would have thrown away a chance at happiness over something inconsequential. You might think you could never love a flat-chested woman. I guess maybe I'm in a minority of people who know - not think, but know - that what you look like is probably the least important thing in a loving relationship. If you're in love, she could look like the elephant man, and you would still be sexually attracted to her, because you would want to please her and show her you loved her.

If you don't think you could love someone with a disability, then you're just as superficial as the guy who won't look at a woman unless she's a D cup.

Blindness, CP, deafness, arthritis, disfigurement, anything... it's all the same. Superficial and inconsequential in comparison to love.