Originally Posted by thinktank

Just out of curiosity, how many of you have spoken to your partners about these things? Perhaps my better half is just really open, but i've found discussing these types of things really elevates a relationship. A few months back we wrote each other letters describing the kinds of things that we would like to try and then we went through them and decided what we were both comfortable with. A few of the things some of you have mentioned are now routine in our sex lives, and i dont think either of us could be happier. It's sometimes hard to be direct with your sexuality, but if your partner cant at least accept what you're interested in (if they want to take part or not) then you probably shouldnt be with them.