either way, mmf and ffm, would be sexually stimulating and as exciting or as comfortable as you let it be. i'm married and either way would instill jealousy in either me or her respectively. it's just human to want to protect what is close to you.
But...one night while sitting on my couch watching tv with the wife, she blurted out, "do you like to see girls kiss? does that turn you on?"
turns out...recently, a very attractive woman that works for my wife and is a fairly close friend of hers, casually brought up to my wife that her husband had requested a risque birthday present. she said he wanted to see her make-out(kiss and touch) with another woman while he, and in this case me, get to watch. the other woman is pretty good looking and my wife says he's decent looking.
my birthday and his birthday are a couple weeks apart and it could probably be considered a present for both of us.
in talking about the prospects of this "party"...
1. my wife had said that she'd strongly consider it--- "what the hell" and "i'm gay until it's my turn" have come up in conversation.
2. but she is uncomfortable with the way her body looks after a couple of kids and doesn't wwant anyone to see her naked in any way(she even hates me to see her sometimes). this was solved when it was learned that the other guy requested tanktops and thongs and never really brought up any prospect of us joining in.
3. my wife said that she'd only consider the other woman because she knows her and vice versa...that the two of them had actually talked about us guys joining in and that neither of them would be disappointed since us guys are decent looking and according to traded stories, are good in the bedroom.
i've actually talked to the other woman and asked if this proposal was genuine or just a joke at work between girls and she said it was totally up to my wife, but that she originally was joking about it being the two of them. although she now is taking it serious since my wife seems to be.
my thoughts have been scattered and have ranged to all ends of the spectrum. part of me knows i'd like to see my wife and her friend go at it. part of me knows i definitely wouldn't mind joining in. part of me knows that the other guy may be looking for some of my wife or another woman other than his wife, but i'd be in the same situation, so who cares? part of me knows that me seeing her with him and her seeing me with her would stir up some very odd feelings and even some jealousy, but it would definitely be highly erotic. i can't truly say how i'd really feel until i've been through it.
nonetheless, i keep asking the wife on the status of the "birthday party" and she says she isn't sure, she'll have to ask. i don't want to rush it or push it because i know the wife is suspicious that i want to screw the other woman or any other woman most likely, which is true but not in that context. she's said as much when she's said, "you just want to have sex with other people." to which i reply "no. i just want to see you and her and if it goes farther, then fine. if not then that's fine too." we've both agreed that it would be uncomfortable when it came time for the guys to join in(not to mention she's nervous about fooling with the other woman to begin with---first time) but we both seem game for it. at this point i don't care about the feelings afterwards. i just want it to happen because it has occupied my mind day and night since she brought it up 2 months ago and i am going crazy fantasizing about it! let's just do it honey.
since i'm married, the prospect of mmf or ffm male are just faded dreams, but i wouldn't mind either one. i'm beyond the limiting inhibitions and am open sexually with some guidelines of personal taste, so interaction with me and the other guy is not disgusting to imagine, but not the first thing on my mind. being married does leave it open for 4somes and proposals like i've described, so maybe there is still some hope. if not, i'm still very pleased with my gorgeous wife and could live with it just being the two of us if need be.
