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For my entire life it's been just my mom and me. She's the toughest person I've ever known, and I've idolized her for it. When I say tough I mean both mentally and physically. She's taught me that as a woman (or anyone for that matter) you can't take anyone's shit. I must say I try to avoid confrontation when possible. I am headstrong and aggressive, but sometimes I feel that the consequences aren't worth it. My mom won't take shit from anyone, but in a way it scares me that she's gonna get herself killed someday.
As for myself, I've noticed that I have a lot of the same tendencies. Perfect example. Recently I went to the bank to withdraw some money, and I had to go through the drive-through window because the inside was closed. There are two drive through lanes at my bank. I pull in to the one farthest to the right and there is no one behind me (at first). There's this whole process I have to go through, first I need the teller to get me a withdrawal slip. Then I need to fill it out. As I'm giving my deposit to the teller some guy in a big-ass truck pulls in behind me. The teller then tells me she needs my ID (which they never ask me for- she was new) She finally sends the money through and forgets my ID. By this time the guy behind me starts swearin at me. Tellin me to "Hurry the Fuck up!" I don't say anything, I just decide to ignore the guy. And it isn't even my fault that it's taking so long. Finally, after about a minute of hearing obscenities, I flip the guy off. He continues to rant and rave so I tell him to kiss my ass. He's still yelling so I shut the window. Now I'm completely finished with my transaction. But since he had to be such an asshole to me I figure the best way to get him back is just to make him wait longer. So, I sat in front of the teller for a good couple of minutes just staring at him in my rearview mirror. Childish? Maybe. But he's the sort of macho egotisical asshole that thinks he can degrade women for the hell of it. So I felt good to retaliate. Unfortunately he decided to follow my car for about 20 minutes until I pulled into a fire station. So...worth it..maybe not.
The point to this long post was just to say that I can see both points of view. I agree that there is way to much violence today. But there's a point where you just have to stand up for yourself. And as for your situation Dualman...I wouldn't have spit on his car but I sure as hell woulda yelled at the guy if he was lookin all smug.
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