Jadz: a BIG RESOUNDING YES to your question, both concerning myself and you. I know what you mean. After getting hit so often, how do you deal with a caress? I think I was VERY lucky to get a LOT of positive reinforcement from friends while I dealt with emotional abuse, real or perceived. W/o that, I'd be 10x the head case I am. remember: you have faith in your loved ones, right? they(we?) all love you for a reason! You're smart, you're witty, you're NOT the bitch you think you are. and really, the only cure for feeling that way, is constant reassurance for a good long length of time. I prescribe some TLC from loving friends and family. Would you be a mod here if we didn't have faith in your judgment? would you be a school teacher if people didn't have faith in your ability to effect the kids you spend your time with? I know how hard it is to have someone say "have faith in your own self-worth" like that's the cure to all your problems, but really, it's not you trying to believe it that's the eventual cure, but the constant reassurance. So, here's my addition: Jadz, you are a wonderful, caring, dedicated, amazing human being no less entitled to love and affection than any of the rest of us flawed human beings. 'member that a LOT of people think and believe that about you.
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