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It does sound like you're getting a rough deal. I refrain from being so hard on your wife as we don't even know the half of your story together. It sounds like maybe she wasn't in your marriage all too seriously from the start. Maybe you grew to love her more and dedicated yourself because of your child. Perhaps you have wasted your time. Surely you have learnt a lot from this and it is a painful lesson. All I know is that no relationship is black and white and even though everyone has advised you to leave (and I imagine, in so far as I know here, that it is the right choice), don't make decisions on impulse, that's way too easy, and whatever you do, make your child feel loved. Good luck to you in what you choose, only you know what's right for you.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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