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sounds like she is depressed/really upset with herself/perception of self.
best thing...talk about why she feels like that...did she do something, did someone call her something? is she scared shitless for some reason and wants to push you away. i know that my friend generally tends to bite heads off people when she wants them to hate her...they'll realize she is a bitch and not want to hang around with her and she won't have to deal with them, --sort of an easy way to isolate herself without saying the words outright. and it's because she is scared to death of getting close because of a whacked self perception...that she is not good enough to be friends with them, that they are better off without her etc etc. but at the same time she is torn and wants to spend time with them, but doesn't want them to like her. go figure.
best bet: sit down and talk about why she thinks she is a bitch/whore/slut etc etc
oh..and the semi -asking thing? never works. why don't people just come out and say it: i like you/ i love you/i care SO much about you, ..honesty is never ever a bad idea in this case. if said without the expectation of reciprocation and only to just let another person know you care for them, you shouldnt have to fear feeling diminished or lesser after saying the words. argh! sorry. minirant.
goodluck!
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