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First off, sorry to hear about this. It's a terrible thing to go through.
I can't for the life of me imagine staying with someone who cheated on me. I had a girlfriend of four years I thought was cheating on me & finally found out through a friend it was true. At that point I called off the whole thing, & have never spoken to her again. Lots of yelling & screaming during that whole episode, but aside from that we got along great. My wife had basically the same thing happen to her with an old boyfriend. We have an understanding...if you want to cheat, no problem. Pack your bags as soon as you get home. No ifs, ands, or buts...I watch folks on the Dr Phil show & hear these guys & gals considering sticking around with cheating mates and shake my head. Maybe I was raised differently, but if you're going elsewhere for sex, how can you have a happy marriage?
I'm no shrink & probably have no place to give advice on the subject, other than the fact that I've been there & done that (I guess been there, got it done to me would be more applicable). The bit about your wife being addicted to cheating is BS as far as I'm concerned.
I say get the divorce, no amount of counseling will change things. You'll always have memories of her cheating, every time you're alone together it will be on your mind. Find someone else, your children will be happier with two happy parents rather than one miserable one. You can try & hide it, but as they get older they'll know. You've got a tough road to go down, but time does heal all wounds...good luck to you, you have a tough decision.
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