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Originally Posted by avhg1
If they only came with instructions! Stand hard and don't give in on the things you tell them they have to do. One thing you may want to try is smaller achievements and smaller rewards. Don't wait for report cards for grades. Make them go around weekly and get each teacher to sign a paper saying they have done their homework. If they miss any signatures, the following week they are grounded. Give a positive reward every 4 weeks that they do it all. Take them to the movies or something.
They also may be scared or embarrassed to ask for help, so offer and check their homework on a daily basis. It's a lot of work, but it has to be done if you want a change.
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I'm in favor of this. The closer the reward is to the achievement, the faster they "get it."
You might also graft a points system onto this strategy: certain tasks done daily or weekly earn points -- extra points if they don't even have to be told in advance -- toward some reward, said reward being some privilege or privileges that you'd give them anyway if they were responsible. And you'll have to spell out for them what a "good job" is in each case, completely and precisely, maybe even in writing.