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Old 11-07-2004, 05:42 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Help with breakup

Well hi everyone,
I need some advice what to do after a hard breakup with my girlfriend. I'll tell my story from the beginning:

Three days ago my girlfriend broke up with me after a 6 month relationship. She wrote me an email with the following content (translated since we were both german and usually don't write each other in english ...)

Quote:
Actually I wanted to tell you this yesterday but everytime I try to tell you this in front of you I don't get a tone out of my mouth!
As you may have noticed we didn't do much together in the past which was not only your fault. I fell in love with somebody.
Sure this wasn't planned that way but that's the way it is.
I'm very sorry. I hope that none the less we will continue seeing each other.
I only write this because otherwise I couldn't say a word directly to you and I really don't want to fool you.
Sorry
Well at least she is honest to me
The bad thing after reading that email was that I couldn't reach her by phone. Her roommate told me that she wasn't at home and her cellular phone was switched off. I left a message on her mailbox and she called me the next day.

We met and she told me she was serious.

I told her how much I love her and that I didn't want to let her go. I did also tell her about a conversation with a close friend some days ago about thinking to cheat on one's partner:
I said that day that sure I think sometimes of it but the more I would think of it the clearer it came to me that I have all I want with her. I am 100% satisfied with the one I love
So far so good. After all this talk she agreed that she will rethink the whole situation and call me the next day which was today (It's late here in germany).
On that evening I went to her flat a second time and put a large bouquet of sunflowers (her favorite flower) on her door along with a little card explaining once more how much I love her.

Today she called me and said sorry. So that's it? I barely could speak and we agreed to talk later. I took a long walk to clear my head a little which didn't really work as good as I had hoped.
Later in the evening she send me a sms that if I want we can meet tomorrow and talk. I guess I can't turn the situation much

So heres my question: What would you do in my situation? How would you behave in my situation? Can I get her back? Should I even try?
I mean alltough she fell in love with somebody else I still love her and actually I don't think I will meet a 'better' (whatever this means) women for me.

Another good friend of mine told me today as an advice: 'Wipe your mouth and look ahead. As stupid this may sound'

What do you think?
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