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Originally Posted by avhg1
I know I couldn't do it. I have one of those possessive mindsets. It would eat at me forever to know or see that my wife was with another man. I think it's because sex is not just physical in my mind and I can't separate it, but that's just me.
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I'm with you there.
But I have to admit to wanting to give in and try anyways just because I can be a hornball and I know *I* could sleep with someone I am emotionaly tied to, and still come home without even a flinch, but to watch him sleep with someone else is what stops me/us from getting into this kind of thing. We've talked about it many many times. We have some friends (a couple) who swing on a regular basis, and after a big long discussion I don't think right now is the time for us to get into that kind of thing. I am still too comfy being hubbies one and only (biggest reason for me to fear another woman, even tho I wasn't a virgin when we got together, and his reason for wanting more 'experience'...) Makes me wonder if it's as different for guys as it is for girls...the comparison of 'feeling'...anyways I'm rambling and I need to go pack for a trip up north with the girls
As for the cousin thing, I myself, having thought about this over night, would have to express my concern by saying, Family isn't a place I would go with this sort of thing. I would definatly go for a 'stranger' first, and I would make the first time mutual for both parties, not just a threesome (unless the wifey is bi, and would enjoy another female as much as you...but not her cousin). Then spend a lot of time talking about it, if the cousin situation comes up after a night with a stranger, then consider bringing it up to her, but don't force it. TALK TALK TALK! It helps
along with making sure it's not just about one of you. Have fun, Good luck!