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Need Advice from a guy about my marriage
I recently posted about this in the ladies lounge and now I want to hear from a guy.
When I was younger my mother aboused me and I swore that I would never treat anyone the way she treated me and I was/still am afraid to have children of my own because of it. But I know I got some of her traits and I find that I get upset really easily over little things that my husband does. I get upset-he gets upset-I start yelling-he starts yelling-then I completley lose it-and then he does, by hitting me. Yes I have hit him too, but he has hurt me pretty bad before. This only happens when both of us have exploded and I'm just the one who gets hurts the most being more fragile.
When we are not fighting hes great. I love him. I have tried to control myself and not take things out on him that are my fault but sometimes it doesn't work. But now he is to the point that if I yell at him for anything he will leave me. I want my problem to be fixed but I dont want to lose him. One lady said I need professional help but we cant afford that. Someone else told me that I need to get out of the marriage, but I cant do that because I want to solve my problem and I want us to be happy all of the time.
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