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Originally Posted by phunktastic
I hope I'm not thread jacking here but this question is from that fastseduction site (which I've been addicted to since clicking the link,, interesting stuff to start trying out).
They have a thing about eye contact on there. I'm always afraid to make eye contact because she might get creeped out and think I'm staring her down. Whats the difference between staring and making/locking eye contact for a long time?
It did make me think though,, why look away first? Then I'll never know if she kept looking at me or not.
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This has probably already been answered, but I've read my piece and am going no further.
Eye contact means that she's looking at you, and you are looking at her, making contact with her eyes (sounds stupid, but it's the simplest explanation). Staring is looking directly at any other part of her body for an extended period of time, or making eye contact, having her look away, and continuing with it so no matter when she looks at you, she meets your eyes. This obviously only applies if you don't know each other, or at least very well.
For me anyways, it's impossible to look away first (nearly anyways). If I make eye contact with someone I might be interested in, the interest makes me sub-consciously hold her "gaze" for a while. Unless she's very confident and isn't playing pretend shy-girl flirty games, the girl will normally break eye contact pretty quickly anyways. I say don't worry about it.
I think this thread should get a sticky though, just because it can be a helpful reminder. Like has been said though, don't take it too literally or seriously, because you'll end up being a sad 45 year-old "playa" who doesn't know when to quit. I think there's a point (and a certain mode age) where women stop giving a shit about the games he's talking about, and just want a guy to be genuine. When someone's been dating long enough, they're bound learn the other sex's tactics, or at least some of them.