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A very smart man (Ben Franklin) once said before marriage, keep both eyes open, after, close one... Don't be stupid or blind to the situation, but then don't look for crap that isn't there. Personally the only thing there that I find icky is the "inspiration" bit. That indicates an intimacy that I personally would prefer to know about more before I simply accepted that my wife was going to go. Physical relationships are not nearly so damaging to a marriage as an emotional attachment that is out of bounds.
Now, as to her being a grown woman and doing as she pleases, this is technically true. However, a person of integrity upholds the contracts to which they commit. To that end, you have every right and responsibility to express discomfort or displeasure, should you have any... Always be prepared for the possible responses, just as she should be prepared of the consequences. I'd tell her that I'm not entirely comfortable with the situation, but that I love her and if she wants to go, then I am prepared to try to deal with my insecurity.
Hope that helps.
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