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Hey bud.
First off, please try to relax.
Your degree isn't worthless by any means. Instead it's very "open" in that you can do a lot of things with it. Granted, if you don't know what to do with it, it can be a daunting task to find an area and job you want.. But the degree is a lot more flexible than others, and that can be a good thing. I am in a BA degree, and I don't have any idea what I'm doing after college. Oh yea, I'm also in my 5th year and probably should have graduated last semester, but I put off the foreign language requirement off until now. I still live at home, but I'm not a loser. I doubt you are either.
While you certainly can control the things you've listed; you can also control more than that. It's unfortunate to hear you've lost contact with your friends, but there are a lot of really cool people out there, and I know many of them are looking for a good friend also.
In regards to whether you should go back to your old friends or not, that is something you have to decide. I consider friends to be those that I have fun around; and not people I don't really "like," but like to say they are a friend.. That's posing, and I don't like that.
You are at a time in your life when things change, friends included. In my own life, I am noticing friends I had in high school going different ways, talking to me less and less, and generally branching away from me. It happens, but as life goes on you will meet new people, and some of them will be excited and want to become friends with you. Don't force friendship though, because ultimately that may leave you feeling unfulfilled.
You shouldn't make friends just so you can say you have friends.. Instead try and find a few people you truly enjoy hanging out with; people that you can look forward to spending time with. Friends should generally be an enjoyable part of life; not a stressful one.
I think if you live your life the way you want and be yourself, you will find people that like you and want to spend time with you.
My advice would be to focus on getting your degree right now. If that focus ultimately caused you to lose friends and even your girlfriend, don't change things now. Instead I would ride it out, get your degree, and then work on friends, a new girlfriend, and a job.
Life after college is a new experience and a new opportunity to meet new people and experience new situations. In a sense it's a clean slate, and I think that can be a good thing in a lot of ways. Right now, I am finding myself in a "groove" where I am kind of floating through life; it's not too exciting, and I look forward to seeing what post-college life will be like. It will be different, and it might be better.
I would focus on getting your degree first. You came this far, and clearly care about getting it a lot, so focus on that. After you have your degree, you can kick back, relax a little, and live life the way you want, getting new friends and experiences along the way.
Lastly, the forums and it's members here are great. They are very positive and from my experience, will be more than willing to help you out with advice, comments, and potentially even friendship (from a distance). Granted, the friendship may not be the same as one found by those that live around you, but at this juncture, it also might be a less stressful one that allows you to focus on graduating and moving on from there.
Take care, and good luck.
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