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My timid friends, I know your pain and I have your answer.
Your social anxiety is caused my anticipating the near future. Of course you fear rejection, not knowing what to say, and completely humilating yourself. First, you gotta know that NOBODY gets by in life without that happening a few times to them. NOBODY.
A strategy for getting over this in the short term is to imagine yourself in a pleasant situation 5 years into the future. Set a girl in your sights. Close your eyes. Imagine you beautiful house and your beautiful car (or whatever pleases you). Keep imagining this until it is fairly convincing to you. Take a deep breath and approach her. Say "Hi." Wait for response. Repond with whatever is on your mind. Voila.
Anything can happen. I'm not gonna lie to you and tell you that you'll be just fine. The point of this is first to lower your anxiety level, then to throw yourself into a situation that you fear. If you repeat this enough, you'll begin to grow out of it.
Practical way to lower your anxiety threshhold: Have an alcoholic drink or two (on a full stomach). Do not get drunk or buzzed because that will negate your intelligence.
Now go out there and be somebody!
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