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Originally Posted by gar1976
Speaking as one who has gone through the process, there is a reason for hazing, believe it or not.
Check out how tight the groups are that go through a hazing process, be it physical or mental, and compare it to a group that experiences no hazing whatsoever. The hazing brings the group closer together and bonds them through a difficult and shared process and common pain.
Don't worry too much about it. Most of the time it's a big mindfuck. Just don't do anything too stupid, like drinking waaaaay past your limit, and you should be fine.
Ah, good times. Memories of Pepsi, Preparation H analgesics, and a call to the poison control line.
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Like he said. As strange as it sounds, theres a reason for it.
I just went through the pledging process last year. When I first started, I too didnt see the point of hazing. However, like he said, it really does bring you closer to your pledge class. The guys that I pledged with are the guys I know and trust the most. That said, physical hazing is a load of bullshit--if brothers are physically harming anyone, get the hell out of there. There's no place for that, and if a pledge is expected to suddenly go from being beaten by brothers to being a fellow brother--how the hell does that work if a couple of days ago he was abusing you? Mindfucking on the other hand, is fair game, and has a definite purpose.
OK, hazing out of the way, you *really* need to find the fraternity that fits you best. I mean that. If it doesnt fit you, dont go there. I was and still am pretty anti-fraternity, but found this group of guys that to me represented what a fraternity *should* be, not what most of them actually are. No one here loses sight of why they are in school: to get an education. Everything else is secondary, including the fraternity. Work hard, then play hard. If the fraternity you are looking at is going to expect you to drop everything and let your grades suffer just to join, run. Its a pretty common occurence for GPAs to drop a bit during pledge semester (mine did), but keep them as high as you can. If you have a test the next morning, brothers shouldnt be pressuring you to go out and have a few beers. Stick to your guns about that, keep your priorities straight.