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I've often had the same sort of issues, particularly in my younger years. I admit I did spend a lot of time playing computer games and surfing the net, I like my space and my own little area (my room) when I get home, just to do what I like. When I was younger I spent a lot of time playing games and not much time doing homework. With the door closed and my music on nobody outside would know what I was doing.
Sounds like you're in exactly the same position.
In the end I started showing my parents the work I was doing. Not rubbing it in their face, but occasionally asking them a question, or asking for some help with my work. Especially if it was a question I knew they wouldn't know the answer to, that was always a good one. Telling them, and showing them, that I've been working for the past three hours on this question, and then having them unable to help me, quickly kept them quiet about me spending too much time in my room.
Anyway, I'm rambling. What I suggest:
- Show your dad the work you've been doing, whether to ask him for help, advice, critique, or just to say 'Hey, this is what I've been doing'
- Leave your bedroom door open when you're studying. That way he'll know for sure when you're working. I hate having a door open when I'm studying but it works wonders. Everytime he walks by he'll see you working.
- Sounds to me like he just got home from a shitty day at work or something, got no greeting from you and as the hours went by he felt a bit lonely. Not spending time with his dad because he's working hard is good, not spending time with his dad because he's playing video games is bad, and since he didn't know which one it was, he assumed video games and got a bit 'grr'.
So yeah, I don't think you should spend less time with him at all. Include him in your work, get him to help you (parents are proud to have smart kids who don't need help, and they're also proud to be able to help their kids), show him your essays and what grades you've been getting.
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