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take her to a shooting range that offers gun rentals. that way she can try a few different sizes and calibers to see what "fits" her best. one in my area offers deals geared towards trying different guns - 5 guns with 10 rounds of ammo each for $30 or something similar.

my wife isn't comfortable with my ultra-lightweight revolover. she prefers one of the compact glock 9mm's (model 19 in this case).