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I don't much consider whether it is a sexist thing or not. Personally I would like to keep my name because I'm an only daughter and otherwise the name would be lost, in that line. On the other hand I would like to take the name of my husband too. Then I think of children. Selfishly I woud like them to have my name. But then he probably would like that too. The hyphenated names just sounds like a chore (too right about hyphenated mae people marrying each other, what a mess). Choosing a new name would be like messing with history for me. Seems a bit careless. In my country you can have both parents names, with no hyphen, and that's considered your surname, even if it is 2 words. I think that's what I'll do for my kids, and then if they get married it's their choice which names to keep and which to suppress. As for keeping my maiden name when I get married, I think it will have to depend mainly on my career. If it's important to my professional life to keep my maiden name I will. If it's not so essential, then I will add to my name my husband's name. As for him, of course it's also his choice to take my name into his, or not. Seeing as this problem probably doesn't cross most guys' minds, I doubt he will, it's just not a habit.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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