Trisk

Your right, I may have been a little bit too aggressive on some of my points but...most women *will* tell you that confidence is one of the most attractive things in a man. "Nice guys" always complain that they don't get the girls....and people always respond with "well that's because most people who call themselves nice guys lack confidence."
All I'm saying here is that you don't have to be an asshole or a "bad boy" to get the girls. Just show some confidence, be curteous, and try not to make yourself look like an ass.

I have liked guys that aren't considered "hotties" by most people...but I find it funny that a guy is telling me to stop caring about what men look like. Girls are the ones always saying that to men. Girls are the ones put in video games with basically no clothes on. Girls in pretty much no clothing are everywhere. In relationships, you're not only looking for a companion. You're looking for a sexual partner. I find it very hard to be aroused by someone who's body does not appeal to me. I work hard to look how I look....what would appeal to me about a man who couldn't do the same?
While I don't want guys to look at me like a piece of meat, that doesn't mean I don't expect them to like my body as a huge part of my appealing factor. But it's unseemly to stare at a girl and drool. Just because you enjoy your filet mignon doesn't mean you're going to sit there, pick it up with your hands, and gobble it down with your mouth opened.


I dunno...like I said, I did get a bit aggressive there...but I think you were picking apart what I said too much. A guy basically saying he can't read isn't going to impress anyone. I understand that it's hard to know exactly what to do and when....but there are some things you should clearly not do.
Even though you have said I might be a little bit harsh, you didn't say that I was wrong and that those things weren't annoying at all. So I think my point was taken. This isn't the "what makes you never want to talk to a person again" thread...it's the "what bothers you about men" thread. I said what bothered me. That's it. Not everyone has to agree with me. But it's not going to change because someone said they're a little bit harsh.


*edit* And the becoming friends with random people who approach me thing doesn't exactly work. It's hard to be friends with a guy who's wanted to get into your pants from the moment he met you. In my experience, relationships like don't usually end well.
And when you're in a city full of people and you're approached probably 10 times a day during your normal activities, you can't just stop and chat and try to be friends with every guy you meet. Eventually, you just start to avoid certain things.
However...provided the guy is comes up to me in, let's say, a bookstore (and not in the middle of the street when I'm in a hurry) and initiates a conversation...I won't just get up and walk away. I will usually sit there and chat for a bit and not take it any further if I'm not interested. Despite what I sound like here, I'm not a complete bitch to every guy I come across.