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I dunno...maybe I'm just looking at this from a way different angle.
My girlfriend has kissed other guys (and other girls). I've kiised other girls. Sometimes in front of each other. This has never bothered either of us - in fact, we often try to help the other get with the person they're seeking. This is where I'm coming from.
She kissed another guy. That's no big deal. I certainly wouldn't call it cheating. Now she "needs some time".
Hmm....time for what? Time apart? Time to learn to speak Greek? Time to fuck other guys without feeling bad about it?
Here lies the problem - it's not that she "cheated" on you, it's not that she lied to you (since she actually told you what happened), it's that she felt that this was a life-changing event. It means that she still has feelings for this guy that are so strong she would consider leaving you for him. This is a problem. This is not the "I just want to screw other people to keep life interesting" phase, this is the "I want my life to go in a different direction - away from you" phase.
Now, this may just be that - a phase. But I doubt it. When guys say that they need time, they mean that they want to sleep with other people and see if any are better than the current girlfriend. If girls say this, however, it means that they truly aren't so keen on you afterall.
Basically, it comes down to this: Stay with her, and never have her truly to yourself (this is what I did, because I'm a pansy), or leave her and seek out better girls. It's your choice.
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